Tips for Senior Citizens

I read recently  the following  interesting article by Letty Jacinto -Lopez giving very valuable tips to the Senior citizens and I share the same here:

At their 54th anniversary, my friends made a decision to distribute their

combined assets among their living heirs. Their rationale, Para walang gulo

. (To avoid trouble). They added one proviso: While still alive, income

from these properties will be used to maintain our present lifestyle

inclusive of medical expenses, extravagant trips and unlimited shopping.

That's easy, replied the heirs. The income was substantial to indulge the

old folks with a bonus that the heirs can use in any manner they wanted.

The first year passed without a hitch, but soon the problem surfaced. Each

child used all kinds of tactics to keep the money from his parents. It

reached a point where the poor retirees had to beg for sustenance, robbing

them of the dignity they worked hard to uphold.

What went wrong?

Bad decision, said a cautious friend who warned the couple of this scenario

. Children are so unreliable when it comes to inherited money. Money

received, which was not expected and not a direct result of something they

worked for, is not given the same value as money earned with their own

sweat and tears. They lose their sense of propriety; gratitude is tainted

by greed and decency gone. This is compounded by in-laws who can tilt or

convince their respective spouses to throw out good sense and filial

affection like soiled rugs, Honey, they're going to die anyway, so why

waste good money on them?

To avoid falling into this vulnerable, pitiful state, keep these 10 tips in

mind:

1. Do not retire. If you're over-aged, retire and get all the benefits but

find another income-generating job or open a business that will keep you

active physically and mentally. Travel and bond with true friends, play a

sport, learn a new hobby and volunteer in your community or parish. Don't

loaf around. Your spouse will hate you because you've become a sloppy,

listless bum with nothing good to say about the household and things that

you never bothered about before. Solve crossword puzzles, play Scrabble,

write your memoirs, and above all, read ...this will keep you alert and

keep Alzheimer's at bay.

2. Live in your own place to enjoy independence, privacy and a solo life.

If you move in with your children, your rank or degree of importance is

reduced to that of a bed spacer who has no place of honor or, worse, like

crumbling furniture merely displayed with no added value. Might you kowtow

to conform to their own rules that are not kind, considerate or mindful of

you? If you witness your children engaged in a war of will and wits with

your grandchildren, whom will you side with? Will they even appreciate your

arbitration? Remind your children that silence is not a sign of weakness;

you are merely processing data that is taking longer to complete.

3. Hold on to your nest egg, bank deposits and assets. If you want to help

your children, do give, but not to the extent that you wipe out your life's

earnings, singing heroically not a shirt on my back nor a penny to my name.

Staying solvent and in the black is a good hedge against all kinds of

tempests. You will sleep better, you will not be afraid to express your

opinion and you will be confident about yourself.

4. Don't believe your children's promise to care for you when you grow old.

Priorities change. Many children are not guilt-ridden or filled with a

sense of moral obligation when the wife and offspring take top billing in

their lives. There are still children who would consider it a privilege to

show compassion, genuine love and deep concern for their parents but be

warned that not all children think alike.

5. Expand your circle of friends to include young ones who will definitely

outlive your old BFFs. Keep up with new inventions, trends, music and

lifestyle including all the scams and schemes you should guard against.

Remember that when you mix with the young, you also open a fresh avenue to

channel your thoughts, experiences and values through so that the lessons

you learned are not lost, forgotten or buried with you.

6. Be well groomed and smelling fresh of spring water all the time. There's

nothing more depressing than seeing people exhale when you walk by because

you reek of baul (camphor chest) or lupa (dirt). Old age or bust, don't

look and smell like a corpse when you're not one yet.

7. Do not meddle in the life of your children. If they ask for your

counsel, give it, but be ready to accept that they may not take it. Their

situations in life cannot be compared to the situations that you

experienced in your life. The playing field has changed and they need to

develop their own set of survival skills. If you raised them to be street

smart, they can handle themselves in tough situations and be able to read

people. Champion and encourage their dreams and desires but on their own

terms.

8. Do not use old age as your shield and justification for turning grumpy.

There's nothing more annoying than an arrogant, old fool. Welcome each day

as another chance to be kind and forgiving, to yourself and to others.

9. Listen to what others may say. Do not throw your weight around just

because you are a septuagenarian or a nonagenarian. You are not a

depository of knowledge. Even if the roles have been reversed, make growing

old a fun-filled, pleasant experience for you and your brood.

10. Pray always and focus on your eternal life. You will definitely leave

everything behind, a final journey detached from burden and care. Be more

accepting that, sooner, not later, you will croak. Prepare your swan song

with a humble and contrite heart. If you believe in a merciful and loving

God, there is no need to strut like a star. Nobody is.

My observation : 

Though the author has mentioned that children are unreliable 

when it comes to inherited money, there are many children who are really taking 

care of their parents in their old age and still there are many  joint families living 

together happily. We have to appreciate such children who are not spoiled by the 

modern world.